WORRY LESS SO YOU CAN LIVE MORE
Surprising, Simple Ways to Feel More Peace, Joy, and Energy
by Jane Rubietta
Daphne got this book by visiting the Bethany House Publisher’s site and signing up to read this book for free in exchange for an honest review. I saw the title and thought it sounded interesting. After all who doesn’t want more peace and joy in their lives? Daphne is the worry queen and I am glad she got this book so that she could learn some ways to loosen up and go with the flow. I hate to see her fretting, especially about things that aren’t under her control. I am normally less of a worrier, or perhaps I keep it under wraps better.
I know many things are under my control and many are not. I can wish and hope and pray something will go a certain way. If it does, awesome. If it doesn’t, there’s some disappointment, but instead of worrying about the outcome, I keep putting one foot in front of the other. I will confess that I have been worrying about finances a lot lately. And I haven’t “kept it under wraps.” I’d be after everyone about turning off the fan if you have the heater on, or lecturing about not needing a soda pop or chocolate bar to live, that money has been extremely tight. I’ve emptied my savings lately to put gas in the car, and wondered how we would make it another week before payday. (And this after paying off some debts.) So, I could use some less worry over finances and perhaps this book could talk to me about not fretting so.
So I got into this book and began reading. Jane Rubietta writes with a fun and whimsical style, while pointing out why we worry and her suggestions on how to defeat that terrible monster – worry. I read the first 2 chapters with interest. As I read the third chapter the writing became tedious to read. I could not find any enjoyment in my reading and I didn’t particularly find any step by step tools to help a person stop worrying or worrying as much.
I finally put the book down calling it a day at the end of chapter three. I found that I was annoyed and irritated by the writer’s stories about herself and her quest for peace. Here is a woman who has studied for the ministry all her life and does retreats, etc., but could not allow herself any joy. She made the Puritans look like angst free spendthrifts. She felt guilty about buying herself a pair of shoes that she wanted because it was a frivolous expense, not a need. I am not advocating running up credit cards, etc.; in fact I don’t even have one. I learned my lesson. But treating yourself once in a while is an okay thing.
I don’t believe we are placed on this earth to trudge from one thing to the next, never looking up to the sky. I think in Jane Rubietta’s search for peace she actually discovered a true principle – that God delights in us. He wants us to enjoy life. He is not waiting for us to misstep and then swiftly exacting punishment. When you discover that God is love, and there is a gift of repentance and forgiveness if we do sin, and that Christ gave His life for us, life should be a little easier. Guilt over buying an unnecessary pair of shoes – no. Guilt over being cruel to someone – yes. I have something I would like the author to know: 1st) Adam fell that man might be, and men are that they might have joy. (2 Nephi 2:25) 2nd) This is my work and my glory to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man. (Moses 1:39)
I rarely quit reading a book until I have come to the end. This is one of those rare times when I just couldn’t finish the book. I was upset with the author for being so guilt-ridden, and unable to enjoy life. I almost labeled her as neurotic. I wondered how she conveys a message of hope when she speaks at workshops or retreats or writes her books. I do feel badly about not finishing the book. I also feel guilty (There’s that word again!) about giving such a poor review and being so critical. I am truly sorry about that, but that is how I felt. I would venture to guess that many people will read this book and learn things that will help them “worry less and live more.” This book was not a match for me though, but then I am only one person with an opinion. Feel free to give it a read for yourself.
Final Rating: Did not finish