A very wise man, President Thomas S. Monson, has said, “Happiness does not consist of a glut of luxury, the world’s idea of a ‘good time.’ Nor must we search for it in faraway places with strange-sounding names. Happiness is found at home.”
Close, positive relationships are important for a healthy, balanced life. But relationships with family are also complicated and need constant nourishing to stay strong. That is why it is important to settle unresolved issues quickly. Even minor spats can have long-term effects.
Holding a grudge not only negatively affects the dueling parties, but everyone else, too. Some studies (I know. I know. Me and my studies. You might be amazed at the number of studies out there.) have shown that these negative vibes can trigger or worsen high blood pressure and depression.
What can be done to make things better? Simply put: FORGIVE. Though this may be harder at some times than others, forgiveness is essential. It is a conscious choice. Forgiveness allows a person to redirect her/his energy and rebuild trust.
As you work through the hurt and difficult feelings, it helps to remember 3 important things:
- Nobody is perfect. Everyone is a work in progress. If you think about it you will realize that you have probably needed forgiveness at one time or another. Think about how the other person is feeling.
- Take back your power. When you dwell on the actions/words that hurt you, you give these actions/words control over you. You are only hurting yourself. Instead decide to focus on the positive steps you can take to get past the hurt. By doing so you are taking back the control of your emotions and life.
- Life is too short to waste on grudges. Find common ground, agree to disagree, or better yet, just make up. Exchanging laughs and hugs is so much better than cold shoulders.
Take the time this week to work on your relationships and don’t forget to enjoy the people around you.
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